Life lessons

This week my baby girl leaves school. Now in reality she’s no longer a baby, she is a grown woman. But it is a moment, just like starting school is a moment. It has caused me to think about all that she has learnt and all that is deemed necessary for her to know in order for her to be launched into her future. Having her was a journey and when she finally arrived I knew that I was changed. Suddenly life was different. As I sat and nursed...

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Protecting by connecting

For thirty minutes this week our son was missing.  Thirty minutes isn’t long.  In normal time thirty minutes is never quite enough time, but in those moments when we didn’t know where he was it seemed like a huge amount of time. Our oldest daughter had gone to collect him from a club.  After waiting where she always waits for a while,  she figured that he had overrun.  She then went looking for him and grew increasingly concerned as...

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Beauty within brokeness

My seven year old son has struggled with seeing his mum go through grief.  For him his biggest experience of death has been his hamster dying.  Whilst I have tried to protect him from the realities of all I am feeling, there is also a sense that it is important for him to understand that life is made up of many moments, moments of celebration and joy, moments of laughter but also moments of sadness.  There is in life a time for everything:...

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Remembering who you are

It came suddenly, as is often the case, the news that my father had died.  Without warning suddenly life changed.  In the midst of the shock and the trauma my head needed, naturally, to reorientate. They come, moments like this in life, moments that stop us in our tracks, moments that make us reassess, moments that cause us to think about who we are. So much of life is made up of the roles that we play: daughter, wife, mother, friend and so...

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Lessons from the past

Today I went to visit Bristol’s M shed, which is a museum of Bristol life.  Whilst there I was struck by one exhibition in particular.  The exhibition in question depicted the slave trade and the fact that much of Bristol’s rich architecture and wealth was built from the money of slave traders. Throughout the exhibition there were quotes from a variety of  slave traders.  This quote struck me in particular: “We fitted out...

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