Truth begins at home
As a mum of 4 children I have placed a high value on them telling the truth and living truth. Truth is at the heart of all successful relationships. Being honest and telling the truth is a value that many of us would attain to, yet it is so easy for us not to see or tell the truth to ourselves. We can live denying truth, denying hurt within; pretending we are ok when we are not. We can loose it in the little lies and agreements we make with ourselves, loose it in the oughts, the can’ts, the won’ts. Truth so often does not start with ourselves. Truth can be masked, hidden, run from. So often we can cry out to God for change, for healing, for transformation feeling frustrated that he’s not intervening, whilst the catalyst to that change may be telling the truth to ourselves.
It is not that we start out deciding not to be truthful with ourselves, it so often just happens, just becomes the way we are. Hurts, habbits, bad experiences, lack of worth and value, failure, success, broken relationships, hopelessness can stop us seeing the truth. As a Life Purpose Coach I meet many people who have lost the truth of who they are, lost a sense of their own abilities, worth, value and purpose. It is easy to loose our way, to loose the truth of who we are and we need help to recover it. I love the wisdom found in Ecclesiastes and in chapter 4 we find these words:
“Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labour:
if either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
We are built for community, built to do life together, we need other peoples input in our lives. We all have blind spots, places where we can’t see truth. Ecclesiastes shows us that there is strength and wisdom to be found in partnering with someone else. Two together are stronger than one. Have you ever noticed that people can see the positive things about you that you may struggle to see for yourself? The journey of coaching is about partnering together, listening for what the Spirit is saying, helping people to discover the truth of who they are and what God has called them to do. It is about revealing truth.
“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.’” John 8:32
The truth that Jesus is referring to here is spiritual truth that comes from knowing him and knowing who you are in him. He says that this truth brings freedom and it does. When Jesus spoke these words he spoke to people that would have understood freedom in a political way. The Jews were living in the shadow of Rome, whilst they had a lot of autonomy they were well aware of the Roman presence around them in the governors, soldiers etc, but Jesus was talking about a freedom that is found in him. Last week at the end of a coaching journey with a client she spoke of how she had found this freedom, she said:
“For the first time in my life I feel comfortable in my own skin, comfortable with who God has made me to be.”
She had discovered that truth really has the power to set you free. So often freedom starts with beginning to really know whose we are, it starts from being able to know that we are God’s kids and by starting to remove the blocks that stop us knowing that. My client needed a companion on the journey to see what she could not see, to help her see the truth of who God she is, we all need that. Who are your companions on the journey of life who help you see the hidden truth? Who are you accountable to?